If someone who self-neglects or hoards, refuses support or services that would protect their safety and wellbeing, this should never be dismissed this as a ‘lifestyle choice’.
People’s circumstances, life histories or their reasons for not seeking or accepting help, may not always be clear, but it will often be the case that people didn’t really choose to live in this way.
Self-neglect: Is it really a choice, when:
- You don’t see how things could be different?
- You don’t think you’re worth anything different?
- You didn’t choose to live this way, but adapted gradually to circumstances
- Your mental ill-health makes self-motivation difficult?
- Impairment of your executive brain function makes your decisions difficult to implement?
Consider these real-life quotes:
“I get tired because daily routines are exhausting me, to do the simple things like get washed, put on clean clothes, wash my hair”.
“I don’t have time to make a note of everything in the paper that has an interest to me and so I’m very fearful of throwing something away”.
“I’m drinking, I’m not washing; I wouldn’t say I’m losing the will to live, that’s a bit strong, but I don’t care, I just don’t care”.
“I got it into my head that I’m unimportant, so it doesn’t matter what I look like or what I smell like”